Hello everybody,
I hope you are all fully recovered after the festivities of the last week or two. Now we face a brand new year and it is the traditional time for many to make resolutions, or as I prefer to do, to set intentions, for the weeks and months ahead.
Of course, the question is, assuming you have made some resolutions, do you keep them? The biggest problem with resolutions is that we usually have the best of intentions; we want to be able to lead healthier, happier, more abundant lives, but once the initial enthusiasm wanes we soon get caught up in other things and those resolutions / intentions go to the wall. "I know I said I'd do this, this year but ...."
Say, for example, you tell yourself you want to lose weight, a very common New Year Resolution. You have logical, good reasons, and yet you still eat inappropriate food, forego exercise, etc. This may be because many people end up self-sabotaging themselves, or have doubts, or negative thoughts or disagreement, usually at a deep, subconscious level, that they can really succeed in their resolutions.
In energy meridian terms, the term for this is Psychological Reversal, or PR as it is often known. Everyone experiences Psychological Reversal, the principle cause of which is negative thinking or beliefs, generally acting from the subconscious depths.
As the section in my EFT manual states: "PR blocks progress. PR is nearly always present in people who have long-term chronic ailments, depression, anxiety or cravings and addictive behaviour, which is why it can prove so very difficult to stop smoking the cigarettes, eating the sugary foods, relinquish the caffeine, etc. Logically and consciously you know it makes sense, but deep down in the psyche something lurks that prevents you from following through. That something is usually emotional."
Using EFT can help us to overcome these negative, self-sabotaging thoughts and doubts, enabling us to clear the decks and allow the positives into our life. Sometimes a few minutes of tapping can have a huge effect. More frequently, it is likely that you need to set aside a few minutes each day to go through a simple tapping routine to keep you clear and focussed.
The use of the phrase "Even though I ......", while tapping on the KC (Karate Chop Point) or rubbing the Sore Spot has the effect of knocking out or correcting the PR. Some people ask why we should focus on the negative feelings, emotions, thoughts as surely that can reinforce them. By focussing your attention upon that negative aspect, you are tuning in to the emotional "dzzzt" in the body's energy system (Gary Craig's EFT Discovery Statement - "The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system.") and the ensuing tapping on the acupuncture meridian points is then able to have an effect upon that disruption. You need to clear away that negative first, otherwise it is always going to be lurking there, ready to surface, often when you least expect it. If you haven't cleared that first, then anything you do to try and input positives may, later on, founder.
You don't always need to use the "Even though I ....." to tune in. There are times when you are deeply enmeshed in the emotion, thought, feeling. Think of times when you are extremely angry, worried, fearful, anxious, etc., about something or someone. You are already tuned in. This is when you can tap around all the points and just give vent to all those emotions, continuing tapping until you feel a change, or better. This is sometimes called the "Tap and Rant" method, and from personal experience it is very effective and generally quite swift in bringing you back into harmony.
Ready to tap-along?
As last year was not the best and has left a few things floating that might impinge upon how well I can do in this new year, I decided it would be good to tap out all the negatives that I could think off and replace them with some brighter, more positive aspirations. This is probably best described as a more gentle version of the "Tap and Rant" method, although I do start off with some "Even thoughs ....".
Perhaps some of what I mention may resonate with you; perhaps not, but if you tap-along and say the words you could find that you "Borrow Benefits" all the same. Or perhaps it can act as a bit of a template for you to produce your own tapping statements. Give it a go; you have little to lose. Some of the things I write are a little general, when I actually tapped on more specific things, but obviously in some cases issues are a little more personal and private. :-)
If you are unfamiliar with the Tapping Points you can find photos of the positions here. For this kind of thing I use the Short Cut Version, missing out the 9 Gamut. The whole thing takes me about 6 minutes to go through. (By the time I get to the positive statements, if I were still feel somewhat negative I would carry on releasing those negative thoughst or beliefs before starting on the positives.)
I start by having a glass of water, and taking a few deep, slow breaths. Then off we go, tapping on the Karate Chop Point, or the rubbing the Sore Spot.
Even though last year was a horribly scrappy year, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though it was so worrying and stressful with Selene and her health issues, I honour myself for coping no matter how challenging this has been.
Even though 2009 had many instances that made me feel worried, frightened and stressed, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and all those feelings as well.
Even though I had health problems in 2009 that made me feel helpless and frustrated, and out of control, I deeply and completely honour and respect myself anyway.
Even though work has been so quiet, so there's been less income coming in, I love, accept and appreciate myself anyway.
Even though I haven't been able to do all the things I wanted to do last year, for whatever reason, and it is so frustrating, I deeply and completely accept that I am doing the best I can.
Even though I get so fed up and frustrated at times with my work online, I've decided to relax and feel at peace with it all.
Even though I fear I may lack motivation to move forward in 2010, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and have decided to take it one day at a time.
Eye Brow: Horrible, scrappy year
Side of Eye: Glad 2009 is over!
Under Eye: Certainly had better years!
Under Nose: Selene diagnosed with lymphoma;
Chin: then she goes and has an accident.
Collar Bone: The OH at risk of redundancy;
Under Arm: worrying about the stress toll on his health.
Top of Head: Both of us having that flu-like illness in the summer
EB: Summer! There's a laugh!
SE: Very little chance to sit in the sun;
UE: not able to top up my vitamin D levels;
UN: horrible weather for a horrible year!
CH: Why did it take me so long to throw off that flu?
CB: Why couldn't I just brush it off as usual?
UA: Why do I still feel so tired all the time?
TH: Why can't I help myself like I can help others?
EB: Come to think of it,
SE: 2009 started as it meant to go on.
UE: Weather was bad for getting to work.
UN: No work - no pay.
CH: I had a chest infection in January,CB: felt like bronchitis;UA: left me a bit chesty this year?TH: Poxy year!EB: Worrying about the effects of the dratted recession.
SE: Work gone so quiet.
UE: Much less money coming in.
UN: People have less to spend on non-essentials.
CH: Guess my work counts as non-essential.
CB: Makes me feel useless,
UA: not contributing enough to the family pot,
TH: not having enough money to spend on fun things.
EB: Can't get away to my beloved Yorkshire Dales
SE: and re-charge my batteries in my spiritual home.
UE: Have to think carefully before I treat myself to any craft things.
UN: Can't treat others when I want to.
CH: Then there is IT - why do I bother?
CB: Fed up with trying to get my head around computer speak.
UA: HTML - why can't it be simple?
TH: Then the programme has gremlins.
EB: Takes us hours to sort out.
SE: Wasting time, when it should be so easy.UE: Making me late, getting things out.UN: All I wanted to do was put an image in my New Year newsletter.CH: Why couldn't it be a simple as a usual email?
CB: Bah humbug and all that!
UA: What if this year is a continuation of last year?
TH: What if I'm stuck in this situation,
EB: unable to see a way forward.
SE: Why should I bother to make an effort,
UE: when very little seemed to work last year.
UN: Feel like I've no control at times.
CH: No matter what I do to make things different,
CB: little seems to work.
UA: So frustrated at times.
TH: Wish I had more control.
EB: But hey!
SE: 2009 is over and done with.UE: It's in the past.UN: Done is done!CH: This is a brand new year;
CB: a brand new start!
UA: Clean slate.
TH: Yes, Selene was diagnosed with cancer,
EB: but she has responded exceptionally well to treatment;
SE: she's still with us,
UE: looking good;
UN: eating well.
CH: The OH still has a job;
CB: indeed he has extra tasks
UA: and might be in line for a bit of a promotion.
TH: Who knows?
EB: Now all that is settled,
SE: he can start looking after his health better.
UE: I can't control everything for him;
UN: I acknowledge I have to let him take personal responsibility for himself.
CH: I can only be responsible for my own state of health and well-being.
CB: But I can be there as a support for him,
UA: and point him in the right direction,
TH: but I accept that ultimately it's down to him.
EB: I'm starting this year feeling pretty good.
SE: Yes, I've had respiratory problems last year,
UE: but remember that cold that tried to take hold
UN: just two weeks before the holidays;
CH: the one you nuked with vitamin D?
CB: I know I'm doing things to support my health.
UA: I know the EFT helps with the symptoms.
TH: OK, I can't make things disappear overnight.
EB: But they don't last as long as they used to,
SE: in the past,
UE: when a cold would take nearly a month to go.
UN: I have strengths I can use
CH: for this coming year.
CB: EFT and Reiki,
UA: caring for myself,
TH: building me up,
EB: so I'm are in a fit state
SE: to help others.
UE: So, it's been quiet lately, workwise.
UN: What if I choose to see that as a blessing?
CH: When I've not been well,
CB: I'm hardly in a fit state to help others.
UA: What if I choose to see that the quiet time
TH: has given me more time
EB: to do other things?
SE: I've certainly been able
UE: to do more reading this year;
UN: especially for pleasure.
CH: I've always had enough funds
CB: to enable me to do really important things.
UA: I've been able to do my EFT Level 3 training.
TH: I've been able to attend the EFT mentoring days.
EB: I've had more time to go into EFT
SE: to see how it works for me.UE: The holidays have gone well
UN: and I realize that you don't need to spend money
CH: to treat family and friends.
CB: I can choose to be more positive about the coming year.
UA: So the IT stuff is a foreign language?
TH: I can choose to see it as a challenge
EB: to learn how to decipher
SE: and use this strange language.UE: I can allow myself to see the benefits that the Internet can bring,
UN: how it allows me to contact others
CH: and perhaps be of help.
CB: I can choose to feel confident about this coming year.
UA: I can choose to take things one day at a time.
TH: I can allow myself to find joy
EB: in everything I do.
SE: I can choose to be motivatedUE: and move forward with confidence.
UN: I know I am capable
CH: and able to take control when I need to,
CB: and yet allow flow
UA: when it's necessary.
TH: I don't really want to be a control-freak;
EB: I choose to allow space for spontaneity and fun.
SE: I am open to the possibility UE: that 2010 can be a fantastic year.
UN: I am grateful for the lessons
CH: I learned from last year.
CB: I choose to release myself from pain and struggle,
UA: letting go of the past
TH: and reaching for the future;
EB: a bright, positive future
SE: and I look forward to many wonderful surprisesUE: along the way.
UN: We may even get a decent summer this year!
CH: And I might still get the chance to make a snowman.
CB: I choose to let go of any limiting beliefs
UA: that may be holding me back,
TH: acknowledging with love and forgiveness
EB: any part of me that is trying to keep me safe,
SE: perhaps thinking "Better the devil you know..."UE: I choose to believe that it is safe for me to move forward
UN: to build upon what I already have.
CH: I choose to be relaxed and peaceful about the forthcoming weeks and months.
CB: I choose to know that I can be successful in anything I do.
UA: And I deeply and completely love and accept myself. TH: I deeply and completely honour and respect myself.
Finish with a nice deep breath and perhaps a glass of water.
If you decide to give this a go, I'd be interested to hear how you get on. Please do drop by and let me know, especially if you have successfully adapted it to your own situation.
If you want to get ideas for affirmative tapping phrases to use in your statements you can find quite a few on Betty-Moore-Hafter's site and Karen Nauman's.
Bright Blessings,KarenPlease feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual, and I would also strongly recommend you get Gary Craig's here. You can obtain Gary's comprehensive training DVD sets here.Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. While Gary Craig and EFT encourage such efforts, they cannot evaluate or endorse the multitudes of them that exist. Thus any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author, but not necessarily those of Gary Craig or EFT.