Monday, 18 May 2009

Rub my tummy and hear me purr!

Hi everybody,

You may or may not know that I am an ailurophile (fancy name for cat lover!). We have three of them at the moment, deigning to share their lives with us. Which probably translates as 'use us as a cat hotel'. They come in to sleep in cosy warmth and be fed, although the ladies will often bring back a 'take-away (take-out)'. See my blog entry "Close Encounters of a Field Mouse Kind" to see what Hecate brought home recently.

We have Senior Cat, Pyewacket, the son of a healer's cat. Black, with a little patch of white on his underbelly, he was already called that when we went to view the little bundle of black fluff that he was way back then. We were able to bring him home on Halloween (Samhain to those of us of the Pagan persuasion) 2000. As his birthday is September 11th we choose to celebrate and find joy in that fateful day. He is the second black cat to share our lives; Tasha died the month before.

Selene Mama Cat and Hecate, 'The Littl'un', joined us just coming up five years ago, after the death of our second cat, Tigger, sister to Tasha.

I kept telling myself as we looked at the kittens at the Cats Protection League place that we were only going to choose one as we still had Pye. Having made our choice - well, perhaps that's not quite accurate... When the lady opened the pen door this little ball of tortie tabbiness gambolled out, bumped up against my foot, looked at me with those big blue kitten eyes, and then dashed off to investigate a rabbit hutch. Having read that it's always best to have a kitten that is strong, healthy and full of beans, this one seemed to fit the bill, so long as it was female. She was. The others never stood a chance - this one was such a character!

On the way home, the Other Half asked me if I thought the mother cat would be spoken for, as she seemed so sweet. I said I doubted it and by the time we'd got home I'd been persuaded to contact the CPL lady to ask if we could home Mama cat as well. She was absolutely delighted, to say the least. So we ended up with both mother and daughter.

We were happy to watch how they were with each other, although Pye was far from happy! It took him three months to get used to them, and even now he's not always on the friendliest terms with Selene. Wish I'd known about EFT back then. If you look at this article on Gary Craig's emofree site, "EFT successfully handles a CAT-astrophe" you can see how Emotional Freedom Techniques can even be used for helping animals.

The only drawback, if you can call it that, is that both lady cats are very independent and not very socialized to humans. Selene will sit on the OH's lap if he puts her there, but Hecate does not like being handled much at all, and only purrs, very quietly indeed, if there is food in the offing! Selene only purrs if she can get on the bed, for some odd reason. Fortunately, Pye is happy to be a lap cat, and he has a wonderful purr when you stroke him.

So when I saw the cat widget on another site I visited, I had to put it on mine as well. Especially as there is a passing resemblance to 'His Pyeness', although his white patch is a little lower down on his belly. When you point at the cat's tummy, he purrs. But if you move the pointer around his head, or tail, etc. he will reach out and pat at it, and meow as well. Go on, give it a go. Indulge the child within!

Oh well, you know what they say - "Little things please little minds"....



Bright Blessings,

Karen


Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual, and I would also strongly recommend you get Gary Craig's here. You can obtain Gary's comprehensive training DVD sets here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. While Gary Craig and EFT encourage such efforts, they cannot evaluate or endorse the multitudes of them that exist. Thus any EFT content of this blog represents the good faith ideas of me, as its author, but not necessarily those of Gary Craig or EFT.

Saturday, 16 May 2009

Just For Today, Do Not Anger

Hi everybody,

At the moment it's a bright but very breezy day here in Staffordshire, UK. Wherever you go the hawthorn and the horse chestnut trees are full of flower, the rapeseed field behind us is a very 'in your face' yellow and the back garden is running amok with growth. Personally, I am feeling very happy and enthusiastic at all this sign of fresh life.

But it appears that I may be somewhat in the minority, feeling like this. Apparently, us Brits are the angriest nation in Europe, flying into a rage an average of four times a day, a survey has found.

It is perhaps a cause for concern to see it stated that "Last year a study by the Mental Health Foundation found that one in four Britons is battling an anger problem".

The Medical News comments that "The MHF study defines problem anger as that which is "held on" to for too long or which produces inappropriate aggression." It goes on to say "The report aptly called 'Boiling Point' says prolonged and intense anger is linked to illnesses such as heart disease and cancer, and can cause depression, self-harm and substance misuse."

Now I am not perfect and I do experience moments of anger, and I am known to have moments of 'road irritation' ( ;-D) but I would have to agree that holding on to your anger for any length of time can be very counter-productive health-wise.

From my view-point, emotions do have tremendous impact upon our state of health and being. Negative emotions set up a whole series of stressful responses in the body, which effect our physiology and functioning.

As a Reiki Master in the Japanese tradition, when teaching Level 1 Shoden Reiki I tell my students that following the Reiki Precepts or Principles is a very important part of Reiki. For me, Reiki is a way of life and being, not just something that I do.

The Reiki Precepts can be considered as the very foundation of Mikao Usui's system, being the spiritual principles that balance the physical healing. They also help to stress the importance of our own participation in our own life healing.

The Reiki Precepts that I teach now are as follows:

The secret of inviting happiness through many blessings

The spiritual medicine for all illness

For today only:

Do not Anger

Do not Worry

Be Humble

Be Honest (in your dealings with other people)

Be Compassionate towards yourself and others


Do gassho every morning and evening

Keep in your minds and recite

I suggest to my students that they consider each of the precepts in turn, deciding how they impinge upon our behaviour, our reactions and relationships.

Anger can be a destructive emotion and can be considered a condensed form of energy which arises as a result of conflict of thought with ourselves or another/others. It can lead to a loss of control. It can separate us from the Universal Consciousness of Unconditional Love. In most cases, anger usually hurts us more than the one at which it is directed. It is always a good idea to remember that you always have the choice of whether to be angry or not.

On the positive side, anger can allow you to become aware of those things that trigger it and cause aggravation in your life so that you can take steps to remedy the situation. We often get very worked up about things that are really of no consequence. These are the times to step back, put things into perspective, and ask ourselves with what or who are we really angry.

When the Precepts say "Do not Anger" this does not mean that you need to 'stuff down' feelings of anger. This kind of suppression is the very thing that leads to holding on to anger, letting it fester away and re-emerge in ways that are injurious to good health.

Unexpressed anger can lead to depression and anxiety, panic attacks, suicidal feelings, eating disorders, substance addiction, blame and guilt. If you read the mind/body connection books you will often see anger associated with problems such as arthritis and inflammation. It may also contribute to more serious chronic illness like heart disease, and possibly including cancer.

On occasions, some anger is justified and the right emotion to feel and as long as it is expressed in the right way, all is well. When this happens do not feel guilt about your anger. Anger can help you to assert yourself. Or you can choose to transmute the energy of anger into physical activity, such as exercise, housework, gardening. How about singing loudly, or channelling that energy into arts and crafts? If you feel the need to really get things off your chest, write a letter with all that emotion filling the page - then burn it! If push comes to shove, and you really need to get rid of the anger a little more aggressively, beat up a cushion or pillow.

Carrying out my regular Reiki meditations helps me to remain more balanced and in a harmonious frame of mind, so I am less likely to become angry in the first place. On those occasions when something or someone really does wind me up I then fall back upon EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) as a swift and efficient way to defuse anger and come back into balance.

An example might be:

Rate your anger (SUDS). Set up phrase, tapping on Karate Chop point:

Even though this (person/situation/issue) is making me feel really mad, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself.

Even though this (person/situation/issue) is making me SO angry, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself.

Even though this (person/situation/issue) is making me SO mad and angry, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself, and choose to let it all go.

EB: really mad
SE: feel SO angry
UE: SO angry and mad
UN: really mad
CH:
feel SO angry
CB: SO angry and mad
UA: really mad
TH: SO angry and mad

Try tapping about 2-3 rounds and see how it goes. Has the SUDS reduced? Keep going until it has, substituting "this remaining anger" or "still feel angry/mad".

Another extremely effective way that I have found to use the EFT tapping is to just tap at all the various points as I feel so angry, and just verbalize the anger as I go round and round, until I feel that it's all gone. Give it all the emotion you want. In fact, the more the better! You don't need to tune in with a setup phrase if you are already fulminating about something/one. I've found that within 4-5 rounds I'm usually feeling a lot more cheerful; even seeing a funny side and realizing that me getting into a state is having absolutely no effect on the cause of that anger.

So even though at times anger is part of your day, there are reliable ways of working with it for good, or to eliminate the disturbance this negative emotion causes in our energy fields.

By the way, if on the road and getting irritated by other drivers, visualizing tapping (or actually tapping if you feel it is safe to do so) on the Collar Bone point can help calm you down and take the heat from the situation.

Next time we will look at Just for Today, do not Worry.



Bright Blessings,


Karen


Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual, and I would also strongly recommend you get Gary Craig's here. You can obtain Gary's comprehensive training DVD sets here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. While Gary Craig and EFT encourage such efforts, they cannot evaluate or endorse the multitudes of them that exist. Thus any EFT content of this blog represents the good faith ideas of me, as its author, but not necessarily those of Gary Craig or EFT.