Monday, 29 March 2010

EFT to help with the grief of the loss of a beloved pet.

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately, it seems my last posting was prescient insofar that when I went into work the next day, one of my work colleagues was visibly upset, and told me that her 10 month old kitten-cat was seriously ill
and at the vets having tests done.

Once again, there is interesting timing. Just a couple of days ago I read an article on EFT for grief and pet loss by Jan Luther, EFT Master on the EFT, MTT & Tapping Therapy Articles website.

It is a lovely article, and could prove very useful and supportive for anyone going through the grieving process following the loss of a beloved animal companion. For many of us, these little creatures are truly part of our family, and their loss is felt as keenly, and sometimes even more so than the loss of a human family member. In these cases, they are never just merely a "pet", and one of the most insensitive things that can be said to someone mourning the loss of their cat or dog, or whatever the pet was, is along the lines of "It was just a ______, so why all the fuss?"


Last week my colleague had told me the details of little Dylan's situation. He had started acting very strangely at the weekend, walking on tippy-toe and arching his back in obvious pain. At first the vet thought he might have been involved in a shunt with a car as his claws were a bit scrappy, but then they thought it more likely his kidneys were causing problems and weren't ruling out the possibility of some sort of toxic response.

My colleague was devastated - she lost a cat in similar circumstances just about a year ago, and has also had to have her dog put to sleep more recently, and was wondering why this was happening to her cats and no-one else's. She was awaiting results from the latest tests in the hopes it might shed more light on what was going on with poor little Dylan.


I suggested some Emotional Freedom Techniques stuff she could do for herself and for Dylan, including the 'tap and rant ' technique to get at all the anguish and fear and worry that she felt, and the pain that Dylan might be feeling. I also asked if she would like Reiki Distant Healing for them both. When she left she asked that I'd not forget to send healing. As she was telling me about it, I could feel the intensity of her emotion and let waves of Reiki flow to her, which seemed to help her somewhat. Once home, I added her details to the Distant Healing list on the Reiki Forum I am a member of. I also lit a candle each night on my altar, representing the Light of Healing and Love.

I saw her briefly again today before tomorrow's session and asked how things were. Sadly, she had to tell me that the little sweetheart had not responded to the treatments and had to be put to sleep on Thursday. Over the short time Dylan had been with her she had regaled me with details of his antics, as one cat-lover to another. He had sounded like a right little character and she said that she had spent a lot of time in tears over the last few days. Made me feel quite emotional as well, as we have our own three cats who we love intensely, so I know just how she feels. I think I'll do a bit of tapping on myself before I go to work tomorrow; empathy is all very well, but both of us getting emotional isn't a good idea in that particular setting.

As I read the article, I thought of my colleague and hoped that I wouldn't need to let her have a copy. Alas, such is not the case and I've said I'll take a print-out in for her tomorrow. Hopefully, it will help her through a difficult time and I'm more than willing to help her out should she so wish. EFT won't take away all the memories but it can remove the associated negative emotions surrounding the last few days, and thus bring a measure of peace, knowing that Dylan is no longer in pain, and who knows, waiting at the Rainbow Bridge.


Bright Blessings,


Karen


Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual, and I would also strongly recommend you get Gary Craig's here. You can obtain Gary's comprehensive training DVD sets here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. While Gary Craig and EFT encourage such efforts, they cannot evaluate or endorse the multitudes of them that exist. Thus any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author, but not necessarily those of Gary Craig or EFT.

Monday, 22 March 2010

Surrogate EFT - Helping Pets at the End of Their Lives

Hi everyone,

Nowadays so many of us have beloved pets who share our homes and our lives. Unfortunately, very few of them are likely to outlive us and inevitably a time may come when we have to consider helping our little friends on their final journey. Just a few days before Christmas my sister had to make the decision to have one of their cats put to sleep; fortunately he was able to die at home just a couple of hours before the appointment, without the stress of the final car journey that he hated.

When this decision to take a cherished animal to the vets for them to be put to sleep has to be made it is fraught with emotion, and that mostly negative. Is it the right time? Is it selfish to keep them longer? Will it hurt them? It hurts us! The two occasions we have had to follow that road were before I had discovered EFT, and left emotional ripples that I have since successfully tapped on.

So why this item today?
Going through my Google Reader page I came across the latest offering from EFTFree.net - "Elaine's Gift". This article by Christine Blanchet details the EFT experience with surrogate tapping she had with a friend's cat called Elaine, who was approaching her final hours. It shows how the use of EFT can help animals and their human companions, even when one of those humans is quite sceptical.

During the twenty odd years of our marriage we have had six cats; Tiggs and Tash, the two sisters we got as kittens about a year or so after the wedding; our present senior cat, Pyewacket; Solstice, a stray we adopted; and the mother and daughter partnership of Selene and Hecate. We had to have Tash put to sleep when she was 12 years old - she had an aortic thrombo-embolism which knocked her off her feet at 4.15pm one Sunday afternoon; by 5.00 pm we were at the vets; by 6.00 pm we were burying her in the garden (the crocuses and snowdrops planted there look beautiful just now). It was all very sudden and there was no way we could continue to see her in such pain.

A couple of months later we had the kitten Pyewacket to keep Tiggs company, and about 18 months after that Solstice wandered into our lives. No-one knew where he came from, or who he belonged to so we took him in, had him neutered, microchipped and vaccinated. He got his name from the fact that we felt we couldn't turn him out on a bitterly cold Winter Solstice night. He was the sweetest, daftest creature, and ate like there was no tomorrow - which alas for him turned out to be the case.

The vet did tell us he had a large heart murmur but he seemed fine. I did note that he was fond of nibbling the yarrow plant in the garden, but thought nothing of it at that time. When we went on holiday we decided he'd be best in the cattery, in case he wandered off again. We left him there on the Monday morning, but when we came to collect him on the following Saturday, they had to tell us that sadly he had died sometime during that first day with them. When they went to feed him, he was curled up peacefully, but gone.

It's likely that his heart had given out on him. They had kept him for us and when we buried him in his favourite spot in the garden, near the yarrow plant, it occurred to me that he may in fact have been self medicating, as we herbalists use Yarrow (Achillea millefolium) in remedies for heart and circulatory disorders. Coincidentally enough, just a few weeks later we heard of a cat, diagnosed with heart failure, who hated taking his tablets, but would spend a few minutes each day in our informant's garden, chewing on the foxglove leaves. Digitalis purpurea is of course the plant that contains the cardiac glycosides from which the heart drug Digoxin is synthesized.

At the age of 15 Tiggs showed signs of being unwell; going off her food was most unusual. A trip to the vets revealed the fact that she had a tumour in her kidney. They gave her some injections that they said might help a little and told us to see how she got on. Within a few days it was evident that Tiggs was failing; she didn't seem in pain but was slow and uncomfortable, and had gone off her food again. This time, there was opportunity to think about the decision - but in the end, there could be only one thing to do, and so we had to make that journey to the vets and see that she was helped on her final journey, and sooner, rather than later.

Six months later we added Selene and Hecate to the family, much to Pyewacket's utter disgust. If we had just had the kitten, he would probably have been fine, as he gets on quite well with her. But to this day, six years later, he still doesn't really have much time for Selene Mama Cat. I really should try a little surrogate tapping on his behalf ...

As readers may know, we've had health issues with Selene (here and here) and back in September we seriously thought we would have another final visit to the vets on the cards. Fortunately, all appears to be well, but as all three cats presently residing in this household are getting older, the time may come again when we have to make that decision, unless they die peacefully in their sleep, like Solstice.

Both of us hope that the furry lord and ladies of this house will be around with us yet for many a long year, but if we have to make that final decision for any of them there will be a lot of EFT tapping going on, for both them, and for us, to make the process as smooth and as hurt-free as possible.
It is good to know that there is a process that can help at this painful time.


Bright Blessings,


Karen


Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual, and I would also strongly recommend you get Gary Craig's here. You can obtain Gary's comprehensive training DVD sets here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. While Gary Craig and EFT encourage such efforts, they cannot evaluate or endorse the multitudes of them that exist. Thus any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author, but not necessarily those of Gary Craig or EFT.

Monday, 1 March 2010

Favourite EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) / MTT (Meridian Tapping Techniqes) sites and blogs

Hi everyone,
I've been having a bit of an organize, starting some clearing in the back garden (long overdue!) and also a tidy-up of the info I have filed on the PC. Must be something in the spring air - we had a beautiful sunny day here today, although still a little chilly, and my heart was lifted by seeing how the crocuses are now bursting into bloom to join the snowdrops. The daffodils, however, are still only green stems, about 3 - 4" high, whereas in previous years, they have been in full flower by now. Can't say I blame them; it's probably much cosier with a blanket of soil around you.
Anyway, as a result of the PC tidying of files, I now have a list of all my favourite EFT / MTT (Meridian Tapping Techniques) sites and blogs that I regularly have a looksie at, so they are going up here for others to have a look at, if they don't already know about them. Some are in the side-bar of the blog, and some are mentioned in the links page of my main website, but here I shall be putting a little note about why I like each of these sites.
I'm obviously going to encourage people to have a look at my own websites, www.eft-reiki.com and www.eft-not-hrt.com. As time goes by and is available, I am intending to add to their contents, so keep an eye on them. :-D
With the impending likelihood that Gary Craig's wonderful emofree site, with all its many articles, may no longer be available in the near future, some other sites have come on-line to allow similar articles and case studies to be collected and available for all to access. At the present time, these new places to go to access EFT articles include:
www.eftfree.net/ - "a grassroots, not-for-profit web-based library dedicated to sharing the art and practice of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)," and www.eft-articles.com/eft-articles.taf -"a new EFT and Energy Psychology Articles Library and Newsletter! This site is dedicated to the preservation and dissemination of the valuable knowledge and experience of the EFT and Energy Psychology community." Already these sites are gaining many articles of interest to the EFT community.

Other favourite sites that I often visit, or have signed up to their newsletters, include the following :

www.bradyates.net/youtube.htm - some great videos to tap-along with, and plenty to choose from! I really enjoy tuning in to these.
Carollook.com Carol Look's Website. If you sign up to her newsletter you get a good tap-along script with most editions as you can see if you go to newsletters index page.
www.thrivingnow.com/ - Rick Wilkes Website with tons of free articles in the archives, and audios to check out.
www.taptalkradio.com/ - Carol Look and Rick Wilkes - lots of podcasts to tune into.

www.energytapping.info/for/Tapping/ - Carol Vartuli and Rick Wilkes - lots of articles to read through.

www.blog.newagelondon.com/ - Suzanne Zacharia - a great little newsletter with some useful EFT tapping scripts.
http://noreenbarron.blogspot.com/ and http://energyandintention.com/ - Noreen Barron's blog, and her website which has some EFT scripts and questions to help you find core issues and beliefs.
www.eftmagic.com/blog/ - Andrew Wilkie's website - some nice tapping phrase ideas.

http://tappingqanda.com/podcast/ - some good podcasts by Gene Monterastelli to listen to and tap along with.

www.dralexlees.com/ - I enjoy reading Dr Alex Lees newsletters, always informative and infused with humour.

www.tapintoheaven.com - Gwen Bonnell's website, with some interesting info in the "Energy Stuff"section.

I'm sure there are more sites that I have a look at, but these are the ones that you can get a lot of information from without having to pay out for it, so they are good places to start. Over the past few years I have bought EFT products and they have mostly been from some of the above sites so I'm happy to recommend them. My hopes are that you enjoy spending time browsing them too.

Bright Blessings,


Karen


Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual, and I would also strongly recommend you get Gary Craig's here. You can obtain Gary's comprehensive training DVD sets here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. While Gary Craig and EFT encourage such efforts, they cannot evaluate or endorse the multitudes of them that exist. Thus any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author, but not necessarily those of Gary Craig or EFT.