Friday, 27 May 2011

Listen to the Reiki Precepts Pronounced the Japanese Way.

Hi Everyone,

I have posted before about the Usui Reiki Precepts or Reiki Principles (Just for Today, Do Not Anger and Just for Today, Do Not Worry).

Have you ever wondered what they sound like in Japanese?

Now you can listen to Reiki Master Teacher Kay Gillard recite the Reiki Precepts in Japanese in this blog posting, Reiki Precepts in Japanese  on my Reiki Master Taggart King's recently started Reiki Evolution blog.

The other postings are interesting to read, as well. So please go, and pay a visit.

Bright Blessings, 
Karen

Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.
To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual or go to my Self Help Page. Although you can no longer obtain Gary Craig's comprehensive training DVD sets to buy, you can rent them from here.
Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. Any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author. The information in this blog is not intended to be a substitute for appropriate, qualified medical care from doctors or other health-care providers. It is here to offer information on other complementary options to help you in your quest for optimum health, which you may wish to discuss with your healthcare providers before implementing. You, the reader, must be prepared to take full responsibility for your own health and I cannot be held responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of the techniques underlined here, either on you or others... more

Thursday, 19 May 2011

EFT and Reiki for the Loss of a Beloved Pet

Hi Everyone,

Well, it has been a week and a half now since we came home with Selene after making that so difficult decision that it was time to let her go. She lies buried in the garden, although I am having a bit of a battle to keep the catnip plant I put to mark the spot from being dug up by the local moggies, despite enclosing it within an upturned hanging basket. I really should have known better. It's always so popular.


Thankfully, her daughter Hecate, does not seem to be pining very much. She has her usual good appetite, and no competition now, although Pyewacket has taken to checking if she has left any food. She does sometimes look a little lost, and as if she is waiting for Selene to appear, but I'm not sure if that isn't just me projecting my own thoughts and feelings upon her. She is certainly less exuberant than usual.

Throughout the months of Selene's illness, since that diagnosis back in September 2009, I have frequently used both EFT and Reiki to help both Selene and me, as my previous posts detail. She has been on the Reiki-Evolution Distant Healing Group List all that time, and I am sure that all the positive energies flooding her way did much to enable her to do as well as she did.

When I knew that last weekend that the end-time was approaching I updated the Healing Group, and asked for Reiki to be sent at the time of the appointment. Did it contribute to the fact that on the whole the entire visit was actually quite peaceful and ultimately gentle? I like to think so as Selene seemed so calm about it all, quiet and relaxed even in the cat carrier on the way there. Certainly not her usual behaviour.

When we knew we were going, finally, to be making that  last appointment with the vet, I had felt quite overwhelmed with emotion, easily a 10/10 on the SUDS rating. I was familiar with that feeling; it was the same as it was when we had had to have Tigger put to sleep, back in 2004, after being diagnosed with a cancer of the kidney at age 15. That had all happened quite quickly, within the space of a week or so, and didn't happen quite so peacefully.

Three years prior to that, Tigger's sister Tasha, had to be put to sleep after suffering an aortic thrombo-embolism. That was extremely quick and sudden! She went off her hind legs, obviously in great distress at 4.15 pm one Sunday afternoon. By 5.00 pm we were at the vets and he told us the only real option was to put her to sleep; by 6.00 pm she was buried in the garden.

So there were these memories feeding in all that past negative emotion. Plus the very thought of having to bring things to such a final conclusion..... Had we left it too long......? Perhaps she might bounce back again......? Just looking at her lying there, looking so tired, the sp
ark gone out, as Craig put it; all this tugged at the heart strings. It is such a huge decision; were we doing the right thing? (Remember this was before Selene's Rainbow). And of course, already grieving the loss of a bright little soul, anticipating the absence.

Anyone who has lost a beloved pet knows what goes through the mind and heart at these times. Exactly the same emotions as those we have when a beloved family member or friend has died. Emotions such as grief, sometimes guilt, and even anger, at ourselves and the lost one.  And tears flowing, so many tears....

So over the weekend of 7th and 8th May I did a lot of EFT tapping. Sometimes I articulated what I felt, and where I felt it; at others I just tapped away as I let it all flow out of me. I especially wanted to be able to hold it together so that Selene didn't have to pick up on feelings of raw grief as we travelled to the vets. Animals, like young children, are so sensitive to atmosphere and emotions.

As my husband carried the cat carrier into the consulting room, I was tapping on the Karate Chop point to try and help balance myself. Now this didn't stop me crying as we let her out on to the table; it didn't clear the choking in my throat as we said we knew it was now time, but that was all right. That was appropriate, and fitting.

As Craig gave her the injection I held my hands gently around Selene's head,
letting Reiki flow to her that one last time. As I said previously, it was all very quick, and very gentle.

When I came out with her and got into the car, while I was waiting for my husband to settle up, I shed many tears, but as I did, I tapped away on the usual shortcut points. I didn't bother with any setup phrases, or even much about wording. I was in the depth of the emotion, letting it flow, and just tapped and tapped. At times like this, that is all you need to do.

Within a very few minutes the tears stopped, and I too felt a sense of peace and calm.

Once we had buried Selene I did a little more tapping to mop up any remaining distress. Come bedtime, unlike the 3 previous times (we had another cat, Solstice, who died during a stay in the cattery when we were on holiday - that was certainly a shock to come home to!) I found I just could not get emotionally upset.  
I could think of the day's events calmly, and feel only a sense of relief that Selene would no longer suffer from the frequent liquid visits to the litter tray which must have been so enervating - after all, imagine how you feel yourself when suffering with diarrhoea! And think what it must be like for it to happen regularly.

I had to go into work the afternoon before the appointment. I was able to keep my composure and thus not upset any of my clients. The next day one of my colleagues, one who not long ago lost her own little cat, asked me about Selene and I managed to talk to her with only a few tears and choked up feelings.

It actually felt very strange not to come down to a pong in the morning. I never thought I would ever miss the smell of cat poo!
Association I suppose; the absence of whiff meant an absence of cat. It also felt very odd not to have a little body on the table behind me in the kitchen as I got food ready. When I cleared away Selene's food and water bowl, I felt emotion rise up - more tapping knocked it out. Whenever a memory arose that made me choked, or tears to well up, I tapped on it.


Memories do ambush you, often just as you feel you have a sense of equilibrium. In the middle of last week, Hecate came in and indicated she wanted some food. I decided I'd give her some treats instead but as I reached for the pot on the shelf, I suddenly burst into a flood of tears. 
One small regret I do have, and that is I never thought to tape one of Selene's little mannerisms. When she fancied a treat, she would sit on the kitchen table and look fixedly at you. Once she knew she had your attention she would look, very deliberately at her treat pot on the shelf, and then look back at you. Occasionally she would even thow in a look at her food bowl. We would say "What is it then?" and she would repeat t process. We could do this a few times and you could see her thought processes - "Blimey, how much clearer can I make myself? Feed me my treats!!!!!". 


It only took a moment of tapping on the Collar Bone point, and I was smiling at the memory rather than bawling my eyes out.

I know that EFT is an excellent tool in this sort of situation, but I have never had the opportunity to personally experience it at this level. Obviously, I would much rather not have had to, but that's the way of it. I have used EFT previously on memories of Tigger, Tasha and Solstice when those memories have made me upset (and of course EFT can be applied for human bereavement too - I've worked very successfully on a lot on issues around my father's last illness and death - I just wish I'd known about EFT back in 2003!)

Because I know how powerful EFT is, it does not really surprise me that it has helped so much in allowing me to come to terms with what has happened and move forward so easily, and swiftly.
When working with a client, we always try to test our results. One way of doing this is to "Tell the Story" and see if you are affected as much as you were before you started the tapping. On Monday, almost a week to the time Selene died, I had to tell my mother, as she had been away the last few days. There was some chokiness, but I could talk about it without too much trouble.

Today, I had to tell another person that Selene was no longer with us. I could feel a slight emotion rising, a tightness in the back of the throat, but manageable. I found I was picking up more on her distress as she remembered a cat of her own which she had had to have put to sleep.

I can leave it at this low level, probably about 1/10 on the SUDS rating, or if I want to, I could do a little more tapping to get it totally zeroed. Perhaps it sounds a bit odd, but I am happy to leave this little residue to dissolve of its own accord.

EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques -  the name says it all. The use of EFT tapping does not change what happened, but it does remove the negative emotions that surround what happened, allowing you the good and happy memories, uncontaminated by the bad.  It is the negative emotional charge that wears you down, and causes problems.

The previous pet bereavements have taken me a few months to get over them, but this time, although  I know that I am still going to be ambushed at times by quirky little memories of Selene, instead of bringing about further sorrow and grief, my hope is that I shall be able to smile at them, and allow them to bring joy instead.  I think that would be a worthy legacy from Selene.

Should you ever be in a similar situation, or still mourn the death of a beloved animal companion, do give EFT a try. It can do no harm, and I suspect you will be pleasantly surprised how much relief it can bring.

Bright Blessings, 

Karen

Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual or go to my Self Help Page. Although you can no longer obtain Gary Craig's comprehensive training DVD sets to buy, you can rent them from here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. Any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author. The information in this blog is not intended to be a substitute for appropriate, qualified medical care from doctors or other health-care providers. It is here to offer information on other complementary options to help you in your quest for optimum health, which you may wish to discuss with your healthcare providers before implementing. You, the reader, must be prepared to take full responsibility for your own health and I cannot be held responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of the techniques underlined here, either on you or others... more

Friday, 13 May 2011

Farewell, little Selene, as you travel your very own personal Rainbow Bridge.

Hi Everyone,



Three weeks ago I wrote that our little cat Selene seemed chipper and who knows how things would go. If you are new to this blog you may not know the story behind this but you can catch up on it here, here, here, here,  and here. On Monday evening we had to make that final visit.

She took a dip on Friday, but this time did not bounce back. She had become subdued, wasn't eating much, and on Sunday she was no longer able to jump up onto the chairs and table. She didn't seem to be in any pain or discomfort, but just seemed very tired. We knew the time had come to let her go.

We know it was the right time. Usually she would be fairly vocal in the cat carrier on the way to and from the vets. On this final journey she was quiet, and even lay with her head settled on its side against her paw. I wouldn't be surprised if she knew she was about to be set free.

I was in tears and tapping away and my husband got a bit emotional when we got to the vets. Fortunately we were only waiting a couple of minutes before it was time to go through. Craig was very good - we all agreed it was indeed time, she was tired and the spark had gone.

He gave us a moment or two to give her a final hug and kiss, and it was done in literally less than a minute. It was so very gentle and I held her head in my hands letting Reiki flow as she went. I had also requested Distant Reiki from the Reiki group to help us all through this time.

She had done well to last so long, and he put it into perspective for us. 18 months of her life is the equivalent of 14 years of ours. So she had done very well indeed to have managed so long with the bowel wall lymphoma. In fact she was pretty much OK right up until last Thursday/Friday, apart from the occasional downers from which she bounced back like a feline rubber ball.

We brought her home and wrapped her in an old towel before placing her to rest in a favourite spot in the garden. I have planted some catnip for her there. She always loved catnip.

I am sure that she sent us a sign that all is well. In a previous post I mentioned the Rainbow Bridge. It became very showery during the afternoon; just the kind of weather to produce rainbows. I was hoping to see one as we journeyed there or back. No such luck.

However, within just a few minutes of arriving home I looked out of the front window. There was a beautiful double rainbow. And it appearing when it did meant that I was able to take photos, so I don't merely have the memory but a physical sign of Selene's own personal Rainbow Bridge, as you can see from the accompanying image. It gave me a huge sense of comfort and peace when I saw it.

We also had a thunderstorm that night, and it feels to me that it helped to clear the tumultuous emotions of the past few days. I have been doing a huge amount of EFT Tapping as well, and it has really helped.

Our next door neighbour had appeared on the morning with a request, and she asked about Selene as she hadn't seen her recently. That set me off blubbing as I said she wouldn't be seeing her at all after that evening. She gave me a hug and then asked if it would be possible for her young daughter to come around and say goodbye as she was very fond of Selene.

Apparently when out in the garden, if Selene was about she would make a fuss of her, and feed her titbits, and was even able to pick her up and cuddle her (more than she'd generally let us do ).

So just before we left for the vets they popped around and I have a nice photo of Selene sitting on their laps, being fussed one last time.

A little while after we got back they briefly popped around again and the daughter gave us a card she had made herself "For Selene, the best cat in the world" and a little fir tree in memory of her. So very sweet.

So I'm now trying to settle down into a slightly different routine, and it feels so odd to see just the litter tray, and no paper down, or extra tray in the downstairs loo. And so odd not to have a little figure sitting on the kitchen table behind me as I prepare food, waiting to snatch your fingers off. She did enjoy a slice of turkey breast roll her last morning, about the only thing she seemed keen on, and I still had to check my fingertips, so she had some enjoyable moments during her final day.

So now she rests in the garden, along with our three other cats who have gone on to the Rainbow Bridge. The death and loss of an animal companion never gets easier, which in a way is a good thing. They bring so much love and joy - a little hurt and pain is a small price to pay. And we have all the memories. 

Rest well, little darling. And we still have the legacy of your daughter, Hecate.

Bright Blessings, 
Karen

Please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or requests.

To start learning about EFT you can download my "Balance Your Life With EFT" free manual or go to my Self Help Page. Although you can no longer obtain Gary Craig's comprehensive training DVD sets to buy, you can rent them from here.

Please Note: Anything on the EFT side of this blog is provided as a public courtesy to help expand the use of EFT in the world. Any EFT content of this blog represents the unique ideas and usage of EFT by me, as its author. The information in this blog is not intended to be a substitute for appropriate, qualified medical care from doctors or other health-care providers. It is here to offer information on other complementary options to help you in your quest for optimum health, which you may wish to discuss with your healthcare providers before implementing. You, the reader, must be prepared to take full responsibility for your own health and I cannot be held responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the use of the techniques underlined here, either on you or others... more